Sean Dillon, 20, Perth freelance journalist
Let’s say you love chocolate ice-cream. You live for chocolate ice-cream. You’d name your first-born Chocolate Ice-Cream if it weren’t for fear of social scrutiny. Your infatuation is so unfaltering that you’d happily take a bullet for that calorie-laden tub of goodness.
While it remains a staple of your freezer, is it so wrong that you occasionally pop down to your local ice-cream parlour for a scoop of pecan, just to mix things up a little? Is it so dreadful that you complement the richness of chocolate with the delicacy of good old-fashioned vanilla every once in a while? Exploring unfamiliar tastes and flavours only heightens your opinion of chocolate ice-cream. If anything, it makes you appreciate it more. It builds upon your existing relationship, and both of you are better because of it.
As a generational product of geo-social dating apps, I’ve thought long and hard about the concept of monogamy and its role in my future. Is it dead or on the way out? This young man is timidly nodding his head in agreement.
The problem is, we’re too quick to align monogamy with the idea of love – that monogamy is the ultimate end-goal of romance.
If history is anything to go by, the homosexual community revolves around the upheaval of tradition, and perhaps in our journey toward acceptance, we forgot to criticise our own practices. We didn’t realise that we’d jumped on the bandwagon of monogamy, a tired social construct of heterosexuality that permeated our very own definition. Because of this, it seems as though we’re trying to fit into a pair of jeans that are a size too small just because everyone else is wearing them, and boy, do they look atrocious.
So from where I’m sitting, monogamy just ain’t for us, and our interaction with apps such as Grindr is a testament to that.
Does this mean that love is on the way out as well? Certainly not. It’s sprouting up all around us, blossoming with a renewed vibrancy that surpasses hatred and diligently brushes aside outdated legalities.
As we carve out the path ahead of us, we shouldn’t try to suppress our movement away from monogamy. We’re living proof that suppression is idiotic anyway. Instead, we should strip the stigma away from having more than one lover – and the notion that doing so is innately damaging – in the same way we’ve tackled other roadblocks that have presented themselves in the past.
Monogamy is a philosophy that may or may not have a place within your life. If it doesn’t, and as long as no one is getting hurt in the process, sit back and enjoy the ride. We’ve spent too much time prejudicially placed in the shadows not to enjoy love and sex in all of its vast and beautiful forms.